Be True To Yourself If You Lose Your Way
Do you feel as though you’ve lost your way? Perhaps it seems as if you’re going in circles and don’t know what to do. Maybe you’re just tired of the same old grind, or know you were meant for more than this. Today, more than any other time in history, people are dissatisfied with their lives. Are things really that much different? Are they any harder? Or is there something else at work?
When most people say their lives are a mess, they begin looking for the thing that caused everything to slip away. Was it their finances, their jobs, their relationships, their stress level? Was there a cause at all? People spend countless hours looking to find the reasons for their bad luck. They read countless self-help books looking for the answers. What if it wasn’t something you did? What if it wasn’t something that happened to you? What if it was something else?
Remove Your Ego
Have you ever been in the car with someone who won’t admit they’re lost? It’s frustrating. You realize they need to put their ego aside and ask for directions. Life is much like that. We get angry, start blaming others, and become frustrated with how things are unfolding. When in reality, if we just asked for directions we could get back on track. What if the key to moving forward in your life is as simple as understanding that you’re lost, and need merely to stop and ask for directions?
Change Your Life
Now you may be sitting there thinking, “How can I change my life? I don’t have that much control. I definitely could do so much more; but if I knew what to do, wouldn’t I be doing it?”
You’d think so, but look at the countless people who drive around for hours rather than asking for directions. They may eventually get to their destination, but after a lot of stress, anger and unhappiness.
So many of us are out there “driving around” and we don’t even realize we’re lost. Perhaps you didn’t get the break at work. Perhaps you didn’t find your knight in shining armor. Perhaps you didn’t learn how to budget your time or money. So what?
No matter what you think you should have done, or wish you learned, you didn’t get to where you are by accident. You did something to arrive where you are, and often that something is by not doing anything. If you aren’t living your ideal life there is only one explanation: Somewhere along the way, you lost your self, and you haven’t asked for directions.
Being True to Self
This concept may seem simple, but hear me out. This isn’t hocus pocus. My definition of lost is very different from a person who spends a lifetime finding myself as an excuse for not taking action. What do I mean when I say you’re lost and need direction? I mean that at some point in your life, you stopped being true to yourself and quit following your internal road map. You may have done it a piece at a time, or at one powerful moment. But if you think back, you will find a moment in time when things shifted. A time that you chose to act in a way that went against what you knew to be right for you—you chose to listen to the backseat driver who led you away from your destination. You chose not to listen to your instincts. You were not being true to yourself.
So what happens when you do that? You begin to take short cuts. You stop checking your internal map. You begin to wander.
Is there a price to wandering? You know the answer to that question. Each time in my life that I didn’t know where my life was headed, I felt hopeless and scared. The funny part was that if I let myself, I always knew when I wasn’t going in the direction of my ideal life. Without exception, every time you ignore who you are or what you want from your life, a little bit of who you are, and what you stand for slips away.
So the next time you feel lost, ask yourself if your actions are in alignment with what you desire in life, and my guess is that the answer will be no. The solution to misalignment is readily available, merely ask, “If I were being true to myself, what direction would I be heading?”
About the Author: Judy Davis
As someone who relates well to the challenges of everyday life, Judy Davis devotes her life to making a difference in the lives of others. Judy is a business owner, author, and motivational speaker, “The Direction Diva.” An Army wife and mother, Judy resides in Texas with her husband and 2 teenage children. She believes that while we all intuitively know what it is we want, we often lose our way in an effort to find it. Judy believes it is her mission to guide others in a fun, interactive and inspirational way. Move Forward Today! with Judy Davis.