How To Develop Your Wisdom Mentor
These are just a few of the powerful changes I’ve seen in coaching clients who use one of my favorite tools for wise living—the Internal Mentor. You don’t need a coach to utilize an Internal Mentor in your life, and this article will show you just what to do.
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The big idea is this:
- You develop a vivid, deeply felt image of an older, wiser you: Visualize yourself fifteen or twenty or thirty years from now. You have the wonder of getting to know that incredible woman.
- You call on her as an internal mentor, when you are in need of guidance, are facing a challenge or major decision, or are upset and struggling. You call on her when things are going well but you know there could be more—when you want to create the best for your life.
- You call on her to guide you.
- You are graced by the calm, remarkable wisdom of a mentor whose guidance is perfect for you and your unique path. Slowly and naturally, you begin to embody her wisdom into your day—every day.
How To Uncover Your Internal Mentor
Set aside twenty minutes for your initial visit with your internal mentor. Find a quiet, private space for this.
- Relax. Take some deep breaths. Moving your awareness from one part of your body to another as you breathe, note and release any tension in your body. Spend about five minutes unwinding and relaxing. If thoughts interrupt you, bring your attention back to the present moment. And don’t worry about it when it happens!
- Go On A Journey. Visualize yourself making a beautiful journey to meet your internal mentor. Maybe you are taking a boat ride across a serene lake—maybe you are traveling into a mysterious forest—maybe you are hiking a sunlit mountain trail. Trust whatever journey arises naturally in your mind’s eye.
- Visit Her Home. Reach the home of a fulfilled older you—you twenty or thirty years from now. What is her presence like? What is her home like? Really take in her energy and the energy of her surroundings.
- Ask her a few big questions, such as, “What do you want me to know?” and “What makes you happy?” Ask her any specific questions you’d like to such as, “What should I do about the situation with… ? ”
- Record what you learn. When you feel ready, conclude your visit, knowing you can go back anytime. Take your journey in reverse—back across that stream, back through the forest. Return your attention to the present moment. Record what you learned in a personal journal.
But What If It Didn’t Work?
Your internal mentor may have spoken to you only in images, an overall mood, or fragments. That’s just fine! Lean into those clues and explore what they tell you.
If you “got nothing‚” on the first try, that’s also fine! Try the exercise a second time in a week or so. If you still feel stuck, try a different modality: journaling, sketching, collage, or making a word cloud from newspapers or magazines. What’s important is that you allow your instinct and intuition to take over as you’re uncovering a sense of that older, wiser you.
Great Questions to Ask Your Internal Mentor
After that first visit, you can return to your internal mentor anytime, and ask questions, such as:
- What is most important here?
- What am I not seeing?
- What carried you from where I am to where you are now?
- What do I need to know?
- What do I need to do?
What If I Can’t Hear Her Voice
Sometimes, it’s difficult to hear the voice of your internal mentor because fears or mental chatter are in the way. Slow down and quiet down with one of these tools:
- Take deep, conscious breaths in silence.
- Place your hands on your heart or on your belly to connect with your heart and your gut instinct—trust this intuition.
- For just a few minutes, find something that connects you with your soul: Walk in nature, focus on a picture of a loved one, notice something beautiful in your midst, or listen to an inspiring piece of music.
The Power of Internal Mentors
What I find most remarkable about our internal mentors is that we don’t imagine them. We don’t make them up. We don’t author them. Instead, we find them. We uncover them. We access them.
Our internal mentors are not characters we create. They are real and alive energies within us that reveal the woman that wants to emerge. They uncover the woman in you that is wise, peaceful as a still lake, at home with all the complexities and uncertainties in life.
When you uncover her, and begin including her in your life, she will open up your life immensely. She will show you new possibilities and new paths. She will pull you forward into becoming her—the best YOU in your future!
About the Author, Tara Sophia Mohr
Tara Mohr is a writer, coach and personal growth teacher who helps people connect with their own inner wisdom. Visit her blog Wise Living, or click here to receive her free, unconventional Goals Guide, “Turning Your Goals Upside Down and Inside Out to Get What You Really Want.”