Monday, June 26, 2017

Do You Know What Scientists Say Will Create More Joy in Your Life?

It’s your life… why not fill it with as much joy as possible?
—Bonnie St. John

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I ’ve faced so many difficult life situations myself—healing from sexual abuse and family dysfunction, divorce, having my leg amputated as a child, facing race and gender discrimination, learning to be a Mom, home-schooling, and more. I’m passionate about using the research and information that is out there because I know it made a difference for me.

I also believe that my background as a Harvard and Oxford grad, a Rhodes Scholar, an Olympic ski racer, and a former White House official, gives me credibility—you can trust that I am providing good, solid information. I ’ve been through a lot, I’m a survivor, and I am happy with the success I ’ve achieved.

I ’m a big believer in surrounding myself with fabulous women—uplifting, encouraging, visionary, passionate, hard-working, world-changing women. We all know it ’s powerful when women get together, but I had a neuroscience professor explain it to me in terms of the latest brain research. She told me that all of the traditional stress research was done on men (what a surprise!).  Although we ’ve always heard that “fight, flight, or freeze,” is how humans respond to threats or stressful situations, that isn ’t the whole story.

Women ’s Friendships and Oxytocin in Times of Stress

More recent studies of women show that we have yet another response: “bonding.” In stressful times, women seek closeness and support of other women. This actually results in very different brain chemistry under pressure—the hormone oxytocin is secreted—facilitating bonding and social networks.


In an emergency, men are flooded with adrenaline and become more likely to issue orders and take action, but less likely to think creatively. Women, on the other hand, who respond to a crisis by bonding, remain open to brainstorming, to seeing options, and collaborating to achieve more optimal outcomes. Together, women can overcome any obstacle. History—and now brain research—proves this to be true.

I ’m so passionate about the power of women that I have structured my life to be constantly meeting, befriending, and learning from amazing women. I interview them for the books I write, I meet them at women ’s conferences, and I connect with them at media events.

To create more joy in your life, turn to women for the answers. I encourage you to learn from the successes of other women (see my information below) and to work on increasing the network of women you can talk with. Remember, science backs this up.

Bonding is a win-win endeavor—give it your full energy!

About the Author: Bonnie St. John

Bonnie St. John

Bonnie St. John

Despite having her right leg amputated at age five, Bonnie St. John became the first African-American ever to win Olympic or Paralympic medals in ski racing, taking home a silver and two bronze medals in downhill events at the 1984 Paralympics in Innsbruck, Austria.

Bonnie is committed to helping you with the never-ending journey of finding new ways to clear out old cobwebs and live with more joy in your life. Because she wants to share these relationships with you, she created the “Fabulous Women” series on DailyLit.com. Via email, a new woman will ‘drop in’ on you each week for 12 weeks! She will introduce you to each of these brilliant women and share excerpts, in their own words, from people like Condoleezza Rice and Maya Angelou to a Fortune 500 CEO, a Miss America and even some just plain women friends—the kind who are always there to get you through stressful days. Sign up for this (totally free) series. You ’ll be taking a step towards adding more joy to your life! Visit Bonnie St. John’s website for more information about this remarkable woman.

Bonnie’s latest book is Live Your Joy:

Book cover, Live Your Boy by Bonnie St. James

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